• 0 Young girls - Be yourself

    • by Butterfly Couselling
    • 21-04-2022
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    Many young girls want to fit in, be liked and approved of by their friends/peers. They may live their lives feeling very safe and comfortable as they live by their friends/peers’ rules and expectations. If one day, they decide that they would like to do something different to their friends/peers, this may be met with disapproval. Feelings of anxiety, social anxiety, low confidence, and low self-esteem may arise in the young person which may then lead to behaviours of avoidance. Sometimes feelings are very uncomfortable, and we learn patterns of behaviours to avoid the uncomfortable feelings.   Are you a young girl who: *Wants to please everyone. *Wants to be liked by everyone. *Wants to be the best at everything  *Needs approval    Below are tips to help increase your confidence: *Do the things that make you happy, no matter how small  *Be with friends who care about you and make you laugh  *Say "no" to people  *Care less about other peoples unwanted opinions  *Feel the fear of doing something new and then feel the accomplishment of doing something you feared  *Be kind to yourself as you would be to your friends    If any of the above resonates with you, contact us: Email: fiona@butterfly-counselling.co.uk Mob: 07460401639

  • 0 Did you smile today?

    • by Butterfly Couselling
    • 03-04-2022
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    When was the last time you were asked 'Did you smile today'? On average, adults only smile 20 times per day. Children smile on average up to 400 times per day.   When we smile, we release three hormones which make us feel great and help to lower our stress levels. These three hormones are dopamine, serotonin and endorphins.   Dopamine helps us to feel motivated, helps our moods, sleep and memory.   Serotonin helps us to regulate our mood.   Endorphins help with pain relief as it acts as the body's natural pain killers.   If you have noticed that you haven't smiled much recently, try the following:   *Spend time with family and friends who make you laugh   *Watch a comedy or a cartoon   *Watch your favourite comedian   *Watch a funny sitcom   *Read a funny book   *Learn to laugh at yourself   *Take up something new to do   *Put a laughter quote on your wall at home/work   *Do more of what makes you laugh   Check out our website at for more tips around metal health - www.butterfly-counselling.co.uk   If you are struggling with anxiety or depression, contact us:   Email: fiona@butterfly-counselling.co.uk Mob: 07460401639  

  • 0 Happy New Year!

    • by Butterfly Couselling
    • 31-12-2021
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    Happy New Year from all of us at Butterfly Counselling Services   2021 may have brought some people challenges which may have affected their mental health and well-being. Through these challenges, new opportunities, personal growth and resilience will have been made.  2022 is the time to take care of ourselves and others. Let us begin to live in the moment and find joy in the little things, for examples, making a cup of tea, giggling with friends or a child's laughter. Remember: 'Embrace each challenge in your life as an opportunity for self-transformation'                                                                   By                                                            Bernie Siegel    

  • 0 Seasonal Affective Disorder

    • by Butterfly Couselling
    • 29-12-2021
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    Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)  29 December 2021 – Butterfly Counselling Services    Seasonal Affective Disorder is a type of depression which is affected by seasonal changes. It normally happens at the same time of the year and can continue throughout the winter months.  Symptoms include low energy, sleep disturbance, appetite issues, hopelessness, sadness, isolation and loneliness.  To help with SAD:  *Open the curtains and blinds and sit near windows with bright sunlight at your home and office.  *Go for walks in the open air and where there is sunlight.  *Light therapy may help as it produces a very bright light for 30-45 minutes per day. This is best used in the mornings and can improve mood throughout the winter.  *Talking therapy can help you identify negative thought patterns and behaviours that may increase avoidance behaviour.  *Build in physical activities which will help your brain produce endorphins, which will improve your mood and relieve stress and anxiety.  *Sleep – begin a routine for going to bed and awakening in the morning. Try to not oversleep or nap during the day.  *Medication if symptoms of SAD become severe, it is important that you contact your GP.   If you need counselling support, contact us at info@butterfly-counselling.co.uk